Archive for October, 2007
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Hiring Great People
Posted in Managing Talent, tagged books, hiring decisions, interviewing, nannies on October 31, 2007| 2 Comments »
Emotional Rollercoasters
Posted in Acknowledging Emotions, tagged client management, consulting, expectation setting, Parenting Wisdom on October 17, 2007| Leave a Comment »
One of the things I’ve learned from work is around setting expectations. The work that we do is often ambiguous and we often take our clients through a process is is scary, uncontrollable and unlike anything they’ve ever been involved in before. And we need to get through that process so that we can generate ideas that are both truly new and really good business ideas. (It turns out its easy to come up with ideas that are new and bad, but that’s a whole different post.)
One way that we address the issue of clients calling in a panic about the process is to set expectations as soon as the project begins. We share a document called The Emotional Rollercoaster that gives them a sense of what they’re likely to feel, when. It highlights ups and downs that we’ve seen clients go through time and time again. This is a great opening into a conversation about the emotional side of innovation. It also provides a tool for us to talk about during the moments when people really begin to panic. Reminding them that it’s common and necessary doesn’t ease the pain, but it makes the pain more bearable.
The conversations I have with my kids are, of course, a little less heady. But kids require the same kinds of expectation setting so that they can be emotionally prepared for what’s coming next. That applies to little things: I always have to warn them in advance when I’m about to cut a bagel in half and give them each half a bagel instead of a whole one. And it applies to the big things: their nanny, grandmother, father and I talked a lot about what would happen when they started school and developed an entirely new routine. While helping them anticipate what they’re going to experience and potentially feel doesn’t always mean I can help them avoid feeling it, it does leave the door open to helping them make sense of their emotion and, ultimately, get past it. Which means we can spend less time focusing on the emotional cost of an activity and more time doing it.
Why Office Meets Playground
Posted in The Practice of Life, tagged Parenting Wisdom, work, work/life, working moms on October 16, 2007| Leave a Comment »
I spent a few years before having children worrying about how I was going to be able to continue to do the engaging work of research, strategy, design and innovation and also have a rich family life in which I’m very involved in raising my children. To be honest, I’m still trying to figure it all out, but it’s gone from an acute concern to an understanding that it will always be a work in progress.
A critical element driving that shift is knowing that there are things that I learn at work that are very useful to me as a parent. And there are things I learn as a parent that help me at work. I’m writing this blog in the spirit of sharing those moments when I am reminded that my life isn’t about a battle between the work me and the family me, rather it’s about how work, family and other interests combine to create a life. Initially, I decided to write Office Meets Playground as a weekly column in another blog. But it became the part I was most interested in writing about. So now it has its very own home. I hope people don’t just read it but also add their comments and share their own experiences.