After several hours of a rough morning with the monkeys, I found myself threatening thus: “I’m going to call your father.” To which the monkeys literally responded: “Why?”
And really, I’m not sure why I said it. They’re not afraid of him, and really, he was working at a cafe. What was he going to do?
I must have [...]
Posts Tagged ‘discipline’
Legacy ’systems’
Posted in Learning and Teaching, tagged discipline, leadership, managing, parenting, Parenting Wisdom on January 10, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Patterns vs. Instances
Posted in Decision Making, tagged analysis, discipline on September 24, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I make my living by identifying patterns. Whether it’s making sense of consumer needs, looking at what’s going on in the world of commerce to identify trends or opportunities, or helping a colleague get better at what they do, it all follows a similar logic: These are some things we’ve seen a few times. Here’s [...]
Getting out of whine country: how to engineer a change in behavior
Posted in Managing Talent, tagged discipline, leading, management, parenting on September 18, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Last week we were living in Whine Country. All week the monkeys were super whiny, and they’d freak out over basic issues.
One day they came home from school bawling. I sat with them on the couch and tried to talk to them about what happened. “Daddy ripped my fig bar,” was all I could [...]
Individualization
Posted in Managing Talent, tagged discipline, fairness, strenghtsfinder, twins on August 31, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I’ve read First, Break All the Rules. I’ve taken the Strengthsfinder test twice, and the only strength I had in common each time was individualization. There are a lot of places where I don’t shine as a manager and a leader, but one thing that I naturally do well is get to know the people I’m [...]
What we can control
Posted in Direct Communication, tagged conflict resolution, discipline, managing, Parenting Wisdom on March 26, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I pretty much stopped reading books about parenting after the first year of the monkeys’ lives. In part, I stopped reading because I was less desperate for help. In part, I stopped because I finally realized that there was no answer in any book that would really help me figure out my kids and figure out [...]
Finding the right level of authority
Posted in Managing Talent, tagged discipline, leadership on March 8, 2008 | 1 Comment »
At our company retreat the other day, I was doing some thinking about how I can grow in the next year and came up with the idea that I should be more authoritative. I am one of the leaders of my company, and while I think my leadership has impact in small group settings, I’d like to [...]